As many of you in the US I'm sure are aware of, Father's Day is this weekend. I already talked about how much I adore my husband, and father of my children this post , so I won't repeat it here.
What I do want to talk about is the perception of fatherhood in our society.
On Mother's Day, I saw an outpouring of support, and admiration of women, for our place as mothers, and wives. It was a week of gushy posts on Facebook, and Twitter. Images of flowers, and blessing of love, and gratitude filled social, and news media. Suggestions about the best gifts, and the yummiest breakfast to wake mom up to was everywhere.
What do I see this week as we lead up to Father's Day?
I see a bunch of goof posts. A collection of spoof moments designed to make us laugh at how bad of a job that dad did, or how questionable his parenting skills are. He could never be a mom, and that, for so many is hilarious for some reason. (Not that I think that's true, but that's the general idea behind the meme) I have seen a few shopping ideas, but mostly I see much poking fun at dumb ol' dad type of gaffs.
Why is that? Would it be okay if the gender were reversed, and we had a bunch of 'look at how clueless of a mother you were in this picture'- stories posted? I highly doubt it. I would expect a pretty big backlash if men talked about their wives poor parenting skills the way we do men's.
I'm not judging people for this. I know it's supposed to be all in good fun. I just question the beliefs behind it, as well as the values it reinforces. Men aren't dumb animals waiting for women to come save them from themselves. Just the same as we ladies aren't all princesses waiting for a man to come along to provide for us. We're just people with global abilities that are not determined by our gender. Both genders have a lot to offer in the world, and both should be celebrated for our individual strengths independent of stereotypes.
What do you love about your father, or the father of your children? What are you doing for Dad on Father's day?