As promised, I am updating about the school situation with Bubby.
I won't give you a run down of who said what, and a play by play, because that takes too long, and is frankly boring to read. It went, overall , well. As requested, the behavior consultant, and the autism specialist attended, as well as Bubby's special ed teacher. This wasn't really a strcuctured meeting, but rather a forum to throw out ideas, and strategies to take to the IEP meeting, so that we can amend the IEP appropriately. Normally, we would not have to hold a full meeting to amend the IEP, but since the staff seems to never be on the same page we will have a full meeting. I think the date was scheduled tentatively for the 25th, with the understanding that much of what we discussed would be put in place immediately.
We decided that it would be best at this time if Bubby never had any homework to take home. Instead, we found a space in his day where he could work on any unfinished work he might have at school. If there is no unfinished work, then he might have time to relax, and do something fun. This is going to make the rest of the team mad, because they vehemently disagree with the idea of no homework.