tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post825577429646067694..comments2024-03-28T09:17:32.426-05:00Comments on Thoughts of an Introverted Matriarch: Discussing staring, and #autism in public- join the conversation!Quiet Contemplationhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-26873055312191393512012-09-30T10:28:25.249-05:002012-09-30T10:28:25.249-05:00I wish I had some advice for you. I'm not both...I wish I had some advice for you. I'm not bothered by it unless someone, or a group is staring us down and I can tell that it's clearly a judgmental stare. I don't think I get a lot of that. My husband says it's mostly pity stares, though I don't care for those as much, either. I think Bubby gets most of the judgmental stares as he's just fine one second and the next breaks out into loud stims. Beans is so severely autistic that everyone knows it within seconds of seeing him, but Bubby is more Asperger's so it's more confusing to them when he's talking one moment and stimming like crazy the next.<br /><br />I think it's interesting that it bothers you as an autistic person (and I'm sure others) but not me. I wonder why? It seems to me that I am just so totally oblivious to everything going on around me that my sensory system just blocks out certain things to function. Social information is the first to go. I'm working on a post about face blindness that I'm touching more on that subject.Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-73170067716448117582012-09-30T10:18:27.179-05:002012-09-30T10:18:27.179-05:00The one in this post: http://inneraspie.blogspot.c...The one in this post: http://inneraspie.blogspot.com/2012/03/safety-solutions-for-autism-and-other.htmlQuiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-80262691057202790732012-09-30T10:17:21.265-05:002012-09-30T10:17:21.265-05:00I think that there probably are all those things i...I think that there probably are all those things involved, but I can't always read them. I don't think it's just me, as my husband says he can't, either, and he's not autistic. Sometimes, we both saw that people/a person was staring, but we were unable to read what their thoughts were about us (mostly Beans), ie; curious, pity (I dislike that one), disgust (I dislike that one even more) ect..Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-88032174925549243862012-09-30T08:55:10.259-05:002012-09-30T08:55:10.259-05:00I'm Autistic, but I also get the fight-or-flig...I'm Autistic, but I also get the fight-or-flight feeling when people stare at me & my family. Not only do I notice, but I *feel* it. Whether strangers are sending friendly or judgmental vibes, makes no difference; I go into overload. :-(<br /><br />There are times when I'll be open to a conversation (like meeting one of my kids' classmates' parents in a McCafe or something; a place where we're all totally relaxed anyway)...but, for the most part, I don't want to "talk shop". I'm already using enough energy navigating crowds & queues AND people staring at us, & I just want to LEAVE, y'know?<br /><br />I truly wish it were as easy as just ignoring it. It's like a foghorn for me. We're all different, we Autists. Wish I had some advice.outoutouthttp://twitter.com/outoutoutnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-8529670350971567842012-09-28T03:33:50.646-05:002012-09-28T03:33:50.646-05:00Also what's your sticker?Also what's your sticker?Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08819262159652755479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-82825562706989935532012-09-28T02:29:45.251-05:002012-09-28T02:29:45.251-05:00Looking and eye contact are totally different.
If...Looking and eye contact are totally different. <br />If someone meets your eyes and smiles that; tricks off that whole system you were talking about but it means everything's okay. <br />For me that's just acknowledgement, it means your a mum and it's hard and I see your child and I know your kids having a hard time too. Don't worry I'm not about to form a mob.. Sometimes that's all I want to hear. If you stare and point and whisper and frown or laugh, you are making the worst part of my day worse and I don't like you! I think that's fair.<br />Don't worry Marilyn, I already know that's not you!<br />oxHannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08819262159652755479noreply@blogger.com