tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post5961606988151882904..comments2024-02-10T03:00:31.683-06:00Comments on Thoughts of an Introverted Matriarch: I Wish The World Had a Pause ButtonQuiet Contemplationhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-67187045923910470302013-07-14T00:04:06.437-05:002013-07-14T00:04:06.437-05:00I hope you found some space to pause, and feel bet...I hope you found some space to pause, and feel better. Sometimes, we just have take that moment away, and reevaluate what we need to keep, and what to throw out. Thanks for your comments!Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-17427488950883999592013-07-11T13:55:33.563-05:002013-07-11T13:55:33.563-05:00I came back today to reread this post. Why? I gues...I came back today to reread this post. Why? I guess I'm licking my wounds. I think that's it. Not sure. Needed to think about the pause button. What you said and then reread the responses. Surprise I had a bad experience on line and just thought wow I remember this post. See this is what I mean cause it helped to read it and others again. Thank you for the thank you by the way you sweet. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-2746588407501898462013-06-25T18:14:48.435-05:002013-06-25T18:14:48.435-05:00Yes, you're right. I am just not a group perso...Yes, you're right. I am just not a group person, meaning I just have not ever, and probably will not ever be able to mesh into a group setting where I make friends, and hang out with others in a community like setting. That just isn't for me. It's not that I am a bad person, or that I am disagreeable. I just get too overwhelmed.Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-66402820407986374352013-06-24T05:10:03.945-05:002013-06-24T05:10:03.945-05:00So identify with all of this... i think i have, li...So identify with all of this... i think i have, like someone above, fallen into depression occasionally simply as a way to get a rest. <br />As for the horrible people on Facepalm (or anywhere online), i think it's best to avoid people like that. Sometimes, you simply can't change people's minds, no matter how many times you present the facts, as they are so caught up in their emotional responses. And like you say, they garner support from others without them knowing the truth of the matter. If it's possible to reach out to those others, do it, otherwise, i have found it best simply to avoid the whole lot of them.StrangerInGodzonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01092023230098316617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-65295881178325441792013-06-22T09:37:19.795-05:002013-06-22T09:37:19.795-05:00It IS like a maze! You're right about that!It IS like a maze! You're right about that!Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-53354465028264672752013-06-22T01:57:21.225-05:002013-06-22T01:57:21.225-05:00I feel similarly overwhelmed and confused at times...I feel similarly overwhelmed and confused at times. It's comforting to know there are others who feel this way. I wish I could offer you answers but I don't have any. The NT world is like a maze. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-15449740480438227682013-06-21T10:35:39.619-05:002013-06-21T10:35:39.619-05:00Thank you! I'm glad to be your FB friend, too!...Thank you! I'm glad to be your FB friend, too!Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-60171580826745662752013-06-21T10:34:02.454-05:002013-06-21T10:34:02.454-05:00I love your comment. I want to thank you from the ...I love your comment. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to share it. It's those kinds of comments that offers me the hope, and enthusiasm to go on with writing, and sharing. It's not just insincere flattery. It was very genuine, and heartfelt. Thank you. <3Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-87231338296364469072013-06-20T19:50:09.906-05:002013-06-20T19:50:09.906-05:00There's a sense of anonymity that can come wit...There's a sense of anonymity that can come with interacting in a digital way. I feel that this CAN bring out the worst in people. I belong to a few FB groups but I have a hard time always understanding where another people are coming from. <br /><br />I think you are important and matter and your opinions ARE valid. And I like being your FB friend. :)justasideffecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12560363572833684351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-14420690545310364152013-06-20T18:35:33.910-05:002013-06-20T18:35:33.910-05:00Well it's been awhile since I wrote you. Well ...Well it's been awhile since I wrote you. Well many of the times I've slipped back into reading I thought of leaving a comment. Hmmm. I feel so the same way at times. Like if it could all pause I would find the right balance or ability or something. I guess process it all and then be. I guess it's like that for our kids too. I've pressed my own pause button many times. I do retreat. I do run. Often I fall into what some call as depression. But often it's just a retreat or a pause. The more I crave the retreat the more it sometimes feels like the world won't let me. Pressing, presuring, putting it's demand to move as fast as it can. <br /><br />It's hard to have another point of view. When you have ASD your going to have many different point of views then other people. The retreat, the pause, the ability to go inside ones self is a blessed thing. It's a survival skill. It's what helps me to thrive and preservere when so many want to put you down. It's easy to fall when someone pushes you down. Hopefully you will consider this a pick up. <br />Retreat but don't except defeat. Realize you need to have your pause so that you are ok. Who cares if others are not satisfied with a pause. You be selfish and hit the button.<br />As for people who brag about their short comings. Or justify harming a person because they can not be all they want them to be. Leave them that's part of their short comings. The inability to see that we have any wrong doing is a short coming. I would rather be a person who understands their short comings and tries to over come them. But hey that comes with the ability to want to go inside and seek what person I am. <br />Last thing I wanted to say to you. Since I never know if I'll take the time to write you again. Your a good person. Some FB groups are full of different people. But they don't deserve a good person like you if that's what they are all about. Your writting helped me through a time where I was reaching out and trying to find my self. While I was pausing while I was discovering, while I was in need to feel and see that the world ( my world) made sence. Never stop shining never stop writting even on FB the world needs more of you. Mothers with children with ASD need you. Women with ASD need you. Mothers who have ASD and have children with ASD need you. Their was a time where your writting gave me what I needed. Keep giving. You no not what you give.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-65135951011847072582013-06-19T14:48:58.889-05:002013-06-19T14:48:58.889-05:00I used to think the same thing. Good luck with you...I used to think the same thing. Good luck with your assessment. I hope it brings you to some closure, and provides a new path for you to continue on in your journey of self discovery!Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-69388019716992709282013-06-19T14:22:52.809-05:002013-06-19T14:22:52.809-05:00It's nice for me to know that there are other ...It's nice for me to know that there are other people out there who feel like this. I never knew that I was abnormal particularly until really about 6 months ago. Before that I just thought everyone felt like me they were just better at hiding or didn't talk about it. Now at 18 I'm getting my first assessment for a diagnosis of Aspergers syndrome tomorrow. I know all those feelings and pressures you wrote about so well so your blog is really a great source of comfort to me. So thank you :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11383719785311583878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-75667585291115056422013-06-19T12:30:51.363-05:002013-06-19T12:30:51.363-05:00People can behave in the most shocking ways. You&...People can behave in the most shocking ways. You're totally right, there! A nap is also a good way to feel better. I might just try that today!Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-11511365165515910452013-06-19T12:28:29.755-05:002013-06-19T12:28:29.755-05:00I think it's so awesome that you are out there...I think it's so awesome that you are out there learning, and continuing your education in an effort to be the best counselor you can be. That is a truly uncommon, but the mark of a great counselor. Thanks for listening!Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-87233706559460492842013-06-19T12:25:06.011-05:002013-06-19T12:25:06.011-05:00I love blogging, so I probably won't take a br...I love blogging, so I probably won't take a break from that, but I am totally taking a break from the social atmosphere of FB! Thanks for your comment!Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-21273222877691064102013-06-18T21:54:34.528-05:002013-06-18T21:54:34.528-05:00Moderating can be exhausting as people can get rea...Moderating can be exhausting as people can get really fired up and can behave in the most shocking ways. I find it less stressful to dialogue behind computer screen than in person, but can still be exhausting. I've been actively culling my personal FB page back to people that 'get' me, to create a 'safer' space for me to express myself. I don't feel guilty taking a nap either - my warm, comfy bed does wonders for helping recharge my batteries after they are depleted by social interactions (even ones that go well can be tiring)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-68133422967582771252013-06-18T21:22:21.511-05:002013-06-18T21:22:21.511-05:00Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Th...Thank you so much for sharing your experience. The most important thing about you sharing your experience is that it's radiating out from here, like a pebble thrown into a pond, educating therapists like myself who work with adults on the spectrum. You are educating me, so that I can advocate for others like you, both inside and outside of my counseling world.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-61741223532638135122013-06-18T12:38:40.731-05:002013-06-18T12:38:40.731-05:00Oh, sweetie, I hear you!! I really don't like...Oh, sweetie, I hear you!! I really don't like all the negative junk that gets posted. I was raised under the motto "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all." Or as my brother used to say, "Those are the things you think, but don't say!" Unfortunately while the "you are an insensitive idiot" stare sometimes works as a response in person, it doesn't work on the internet. So while I have no answers, I will say "I hear you!" Maybe just take a break from blogging and FB and see if you feel better? Good luck!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13601329296517304013noreply@blogger.com