tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post2056403117608030998..comments2024-02-10T03:00:31.683-06:00Comments on Thoughts of an Introverted Matriarch: She's No One's Best FriendQuiet Contemplationhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-3120910251917770062013-07-14T00:25:19.378-05:002013-07-14T00:25:19.378-05:00Very insightful comment.
Yes, I have wondered if...Very insightful comment. <br /><br />Yes, I have wondered if adults really have 'best friends' and if they do how do they determine this relationship? What constitutes it from close to best friend?<br /><br />I also am not unlikable, but I am very distant from others. There is not a connection the way others make one, especially ladies. <br /><br />My son has a best friend, and they spend quite a bit of their time together doing thing apart. lol They go to the pool together, but then go separate ways once there, or hang out together while one watches TV the other plays on the computer. They enjoy being together, but separate. I don't think this would ever fly for girls friendships.<br /><br />Yes, I consider you a good friend, too. If I had to make a top 10 list of people I enjoy 'talking' to, or being with your name would be in there.Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-16507725380872441242013-07-14T00:17:43.353-05:002013-07-14T00:17:43.353-05:00Thank you for your comments. I always like hearing...Thank you for your comments. I always like hearing from you. I hope you're feeling better!Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-62268095925709490522013-07-14T00:15:20.611-05:002013-07-14T00:15:20.611-05:00It sure is. Otherwise we tend to lose ourselves li...It sure is. Otherwise we tend to lose ourselves little by little in other people's identity, and before we know it it's hard to see where they stop, and we start.Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-32386001781061678942013-07-14T00:12:26.129-05:002013-07-14T00:12:26.129-05:00I totally get what you mean.I totally get what you mean.Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-43664706198458506652013-07-14T00:11:45.085-05:002013-07-14T00:11:45.085-05:00Yes, you are right. I value true companionship tha...Yes, you are right. I value true companionship that is completely authentic. I am also very loyal, and dependable.<br /><br />Thanks for your comment!Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-55840508100954874022013-07-14T00:08:54.041-05:002013-07-14T00:08:54.041-05:00I updated the post with the two I use mostly. http...I updated the post with the two I use mostly. http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/ and http://www.thecuriousdreamer.com/dreamdictionary/analyzer/ If you get stuck on one, just email, and I might be able to help.<br /><br />Thanks for your comments!Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-52294702948372552132013-07-14T00:06:43.039-05:002013-07-14T00:06:43.039-05:00Thank you!! I replied to your comment there, too!Thank you!! I replied to your comment there, too!Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-22265581466000366722013-07-14T00:06:18.080-05:002013-07-14T00:06:18.080-05:00I'll bet you're a good friend, though. I m...I'll bet you're a good friend, though. I may not be anyone's bestie, but I'm a loyal friend that cares deeply for others.Quiet Contemplationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14667867394641955283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-18005379886799311072013-07-13T15:05:07.841-05:002013-07-13T15:05:07.841-05:00Linkus Bless wrote a great post - said it so perfe...Linkus Bless wrote a great post - said it so perfectly.<br /><br />Again, we are very alike in many ways. Throughout life, I have found that while most people like me, I'm not really considered anybody's "best" friend. I've been very hurt at times when someone I thought was a close friend did something which indicated that they don't feel the same way. And this still happens.<br /><br />As I've matured, I've come to believe that the concept of "best friend" is somewhat of a hangover from childhood, perhaps when the rules were more simple. We do things together, you are there for me, I invite you to my birthday party and vice versa. But in adulthood, things are more complex and life gets in the way. I think also that it is very unrealistic to expect friendship to last a lifetime when people change.<br /><br />I also have realised that some people have a very different concept of what is valuable in a friend or what constitutes a best friend. Is it someone who has known you all your life? Is it a person with whom you feel an amazing connection? Is it someone in whom you confide? I think it can be all or none of those things. It might be a generalisation but men think differently about this issue to women. Perhaps they are less burdened with the emotional overlay that is always present in women's friendships. Women tend to expect a lot from those they consider best friends. I wonder at times whether so much of that expectation is realistic.<br /><br />It seems to me that my own need for space probably has a lot to do with this issue. I like people but enjoy their company but there is always some distance there. I know this because people have told me. Whether or not they perceive this as a slight is probably up to them but on my part it is not intended as such.<br /><br />For what it's worth, I consider you a good friend. You are someone I can talk to about topics that are important to me. You are affirming and supportive of others. You are truthful, trustworthy and open with your struggles. I appreciate that you can articulate these issues so well because it helps me and I'm pretty sure it helps others as well.<br /><br />In the end, it isn't the number of likes you have but the quality of those likes if you know what I mean? And I think you do. =) <br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />melbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14032793912135092967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-70804858356090817052013-07-13T05:24:28.505-05:002013-07-13T05:24:28.505-05:00TY for you post. Its 3 am and I am sitting in bed...TY for you post. Its 3 am and I am sitting in bed upset. On this very issue. I had a best friend. At least I thought I did. I appreciate your blogs in that I can relate to them.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16743205897047051836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-78332710255090117332013-07-11T17:50:49.518-05:002013-07-11T17:50:49.518-05:00I would much rather have one real friend than 10 f...I would much rather have one real friend than 10 fake ones. It seems to me that the popular people and groups always tend to exclude others for one reason or another. I would never want to be like that. And being true to yourself is always the way to go.Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02129510013013288458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-23038516281356314292013-07-11T16:57:36.389-05:002013-07-11T16:57:36.389-05:00.... my 1 or 2 friends reflect back a truth to me ....... my 1 or 2 friends reflect back a truth to me and we are happy with that. False friends are . . . false--Popularity is over-rated! Smacks of the LCD. Linkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12346948772651971988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-39648966593600336852013-07-11T16:48:35.521-05:002013-07-11T16:48:35.521-05:00Sorry I mean't popular concept of 'best...Sorry I mean't popular concept of 'best' friends. Best friends suck. Good friends are good.Linkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12346948772651971988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-40318811327070549762013-07-11T16:46:40.711-05:002013-07-11T16:46:40.711-05:00When you look around at who and what is 'popul...When you look around at who and what is 'popular', be glad not to be in that camp. The 'popular' concept of good friends leaves a lot to be desired. You are right to be your own best friend. Write what is a truth for you, (as this post was one for me) and you can't go wrong with YOU. I am no one's best friend either, but I am one or two people's most dependable, most loyal (most sensible) and most spiritually informing. I refuse to pander to someone's ego and this I suspect is what makes me feel as though I am 'unpopular'. I just can't do it with any sincerity of being. I know I am appealing to their ego and insincerity is probably written all over my face. Heh. Most people want their ego enlarged but some a rare few value me for what IYAM. And we laugh a lot and I tell them strange things. Linkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12346948772651971988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-28150164044695167752013-07-11T15:55:52.399-05:002013-07-11T15:55:52.399-05:00We are out here, sometimes we just don't post!...We are out here, sometimes we just don't post! Keep being yourself, there are more of us than you think! And I would love to know what my dreams mean, too. I have never been satisfied with dream dictionaries, if anyone knows of a good one I would love to see it.Chrissynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-75616719392406714552013-07-11T13:32:07.897-05:002013-07-11T13:32:07.897-05:00Never stop writing for YOU!!! AND, I enjoyed your ...Never stop writing for YOU!!! AND, I enjoyed your dream post.Aspie Writerhttp://www.aspiewriter.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8053855593846713089.post-24285945449861420312013-07-11T09:21:31.361-05:002013-07-11T09:21:31.361-05:00I have had many best friends over the years. They ...I have had many best friends over the years. They never lasted. I guess I'm not best friend material either. ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04136455855533293997noreply@blogger.com